We have ALL dealt with the 3-year-old who yells, "I've got it!" You desperately want to help. You want to make sure they do it right or even safely. Despite the overwhelming urge to do it for them, don't! Your little birdie needs to fly. Encourage and even praise their independence. It will instill leadership and independent thinking. It will also make everyone's life easier, eventually. Yes, it may take several extra minutes to allow Juniper the chance to put on her own coat but once she figures it out, that's less time YOU have to take, struggling to get the coat on her. Even if you are afraid, they might get hurt, you have to let them figure it out for their selves. You may hover in unrecognizable fear but trust me and hold back your impulse to help them. Keep encouraging them until they finally get it. Praise every little accomplishment, even if it is only hanging from one monkey bar. Next week, he may make it to the next bar or maybe even 2, eventually completing the whole monkey bars, on his own!
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We have all given in to avoid the temper tantrums, right? BIG MISTAKE! Let me explain why...
While standing in line at the grocery store, "Charlie" sees a toy that she wants and you tell her no. I mean why do they have to put those damn cheap toys in the check-out isles!? Charlie then proceeds to throw a fit and you give in to keep the peace. Yes, giving in my have avoided the embarrassing stares and possible judgment from other shoppers but what do you think Charlie will do next time you are at the grocery store? I know you all know exactly what I am talking about. It does not take much for children to realize that they are Master Manipulators, creating a perpetual cycle of misery! You can change this pattern at any age. It may take a few embarrassing moments, full of temper tantrums but eventually it will click, NO means NO! You've got this Mommas, I believe in you! If there is only one piece of advice you take from me, let it be this. I promise, you will thank me later. :) |
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